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Monday, April 28, 2014

11 Questions


I was tagged in this quiz by Fenn from The Honest Badger. I've never been tagged in anything bloggy before, so this is a lot more exciting for me than it probably should be. Fenn came up with the questions, and here they are:

01. Where are you from? I moved around as a kid, but I would consider my hometown to be Coldwater, a crappy little town near the Indiana border.

02. If you could travel anywhere in the world (and money was no object), where would you go and what would you do? I want to travel most places, so I would go on a WORLD CRUISE, which are real things. But I especially want to go to Ireland, as I've heard it's beautiful and I have a crush on anyone with the Irish accent. 

03. Most embarrassing memory? I say and do such stupid shit all the time that I can't even think of one particularly embarrassing memory. But I guess here's a good one: my first semester of grad school, I completely misunderstood an assignment, which happened to be a presentation. As everyone was presenting their projects, I realized that my presentation was NOT like the others... I sort of  missed the point. (I guess that's what I get for doing it the day before.) As I was slowly sinking into my seat hoping to disappear entirely, I knew I could either leave the class and take the extreme hit to my grade, or suck it up and get it overwith. I presented, it was horribly awkward, I booked it out of the class, and never looked at my grade for the assignment. I got a B+ in the class, so it couldn't have been that bad. And hopefully everyone has forgotten but me. I will never wait until the last minute on a presentation again. Lesson learned!

04. A dream you have that will (probably) never come true. (aka a fantasy) I have a lot of these, to be honest. I sort of live my life in my head, and things go a lot better for me in there than they do in real life. The one I'm willing to admit online would be starring in a musical. It's something I've always wanted to do, but alas, I can't sing for shit. But in my head I sound like Adele, so.

05. Something you've always wanted to do but never tried because of lack of funds or ability or fear or whatever. lol, just one thing? There are tons of things I want to do, but the lack of funds is a big hindrance. I think the one that combines all of these (funds, ability, fear) would be skydiving. It is something I've heard is truly amazing and I want to do it... but money and also I'm scared. People die that way! What if one of those people is me! That would hurt probably! Maybe someday I'll suck it up and take the plunge.

06. If you could have any other job, what would it be? If you wouldn't change your career, why do you love it so much? Well, I would definitely not be a lifelong student, that's for sure, though I would always be learning. Unfortunately, I really don't think there is a "perfect" job for me out there. Every job has its downfalls, even if it is a "dream job." You still have to work hard, and work can sometimes be stressful, agonizing, and tedious, even if you are passionate about it. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that I don't know. Probably a feminist/political writer/blogger a la Lindy West, but I also don't want to get Internet harassed for being a scary woman with an opinion. I would want to do something that helps to create real change for women in this society that fails to see how truly barbaric and fucked up its treatment of half its population really is. 

07. Tell us about your favorite person in the world. Well the obvious and most barfy would be the husband, Joel. He is truly one of the most amazing people I have ever known. It blows my mind how kind and caring he is, and how much he's willing to do for the people in his life. If you know him, you'll know that he will drop anything to help just about anyone. That's just Joel. He is really that good of a person. I love him, our relationship, and our life together. We balance each other almost flawlessly. He is literally the man of my dreams and I'm so thankful we found each other. 

I have other favorite people who are no less amazing. My dearest friends Molly, Emily, and Rachel are three people I would not want to live without. Though my husband is pretty awesome, I'd go nuts if it were just the two of us all the time. I need my friends just as much as I need him. 

08. What do you think is missing from your life? Hmmmmmmmmmm.... A few things, probably. But mostly confidence/self-love/whatever. Sometimes it's there, but it's never very strong. Through things like Everyday Feminism's Everyday Self-Love Course I'm working hard to change this about myself, because I know that it holds me back way too often.

09. What was your elementary school like? I actually went to two... one in Indiana, one in west Michigan. I was a ridiculously good kid. One time in the third grade, I got sent to the principal's office and I had no idea why and I was terrified because I never got in trouble. The principal gave me stickers and told me to "keep up the good work." So that about sums up my elementary years. 

10. Top five fave songs. (This is of all time, all of these songs give me lots of feelings, and this question was really hard)

  1. "For the Widows in Paradise, for the Fatherless in Ypsilanti" - Sufjan Stevens
  2. "Mykonos" - Fleet Foxes
  3. "Royal Blue" - the Cold War Kids (also served as inspiration for my blog title)
  4. "Rhiannon" - Fleetwood Mac
  5. "(Don't Fear) the Reaper" - Blue Oyster Cult
11. What is your saddest memory? In early 2011, I had just gotten out of a long-term, live-in relationship, then quickly and stupidly jumped into a new relationship and was subsequently dumped, and I was sharing a bed with my friend because I had nowhere else to live. I was driving back to Grand Rapids from Coldwater, where I had just found out my dog had died. I had to stop at a rest stop because I wanted so badly to drive my car off a bridge. That's when I knew I needed help for my depression.

That was melancholy and emo, as per usual for this blog. So here's some puppies:




Apparently there are rules for this. I'm supposed to tag 11 people. I don't know 11 bloggers who would pay attention to my tag, so if you're a blogger and you read this, feel free to answer the above questions. Be sure to link back to your post in the comments! I truly love reading people's answers to these. 


Friday, April 25, 2014

Two Months, Ten Things


It's been almost two months since my last post. I am the worst.

But really, I have some good excuses. A lot of things happened. I was doing stuff. I wasn't just sitting around eating cake, like in my fantasy life. So don't even hate.

Here's a list of ten things that have happened in the last two months:


1. I started 100 Happy Days on Instagram. I really think it has actually helped my positivity. I have to think of something that made me happy every day, or at the very least think of something that didn't piss me off. That is no small feat. Too bad it's usually food. Oh well. Food is feelings!

2. The snow melted. Sweet Jesus, I thought this Michigan winter was never going to end. And though spring so far is mediocre at best, at least I don't have to dig my car out of the snow every day or have to fear falling on the ice and dying. I think I developed a complex though, because I'm convinced it's going to snow tomorrow no matter what. This winter fucked up my brainz, ya'll.

3. I read a bookGreat by Sara Benincasa, a modern-day retelling of The Great Gatsby with teenage lesbians. I've never read The Great Gasby, but I really enjoyed this novel. Plus, I pre-ordered the book and got a free autographed bookplate. I also follow Sara Benincasa on Twitter and she retweeted me like twice, so we're basically best friends.

4. I got a haircut. My hair hasn't been this short since, like, 2009. I don't hate it.


5. I finished the semester. Three down, two to go! I can't fucking wait to be done and to never go to school again.

6. I finished my internship. It wasn't perfect, there were some unpleasant challenges, but overall I really enjoyed my time at my agency and wouldn't have wanted to be anywhere else. I will miss the people I met, and I'm so happy to have had the opportunity to learn from them. But I'm also happy to be moving on to new things. Speaking of which...

7. I got a graduate assistantship. I want experience in the field of women's advocacy so that maybe someone will give me a job in it someday, so I went to the Women's Center at my university and was like "hey can I do stuff for you" and they were like, "yeah, and also we can pay you." And so I have a graduate assistantship for the summer. 9 credits paid for + an hourly wage for 20 hours per week. I'll take it!

8. I played with my friends. Girls nights with coloring and nail-painting, St. Patty's Day with Irish car bombs, bar nights, sad movie nights, a Hunger Games party... we know how to have a weird time.
 I can't even explain how lucky I am for these people. 

Photo credit: Morgan and Chuck

9. I presented my research. That statement makes me sound a lot more scholarly than I am. For my research class, we had to complete a qualitative study. I interviewed three female bartenders on their experiences with sexual harassment in the workplace, wrote a giant paper, and almost died because that project stressed my shit out. But my professor liked it, so he asked me to present it in the Graduate Student Showcase. I made a really boring poster that I can't believe people actually stood there and read. But because I had the word "sexual" in my presentation, everyone thought it was daring and provocative and people wanted to talk to me about it, which led to a lot of great conversations on feminism and misogyny during the event. And I was only a little awkward. I almost didn't do it because everything terrifies me, but I'm glad I did.

10. We booked our vacation. Holy shit-balls, this means it's really happening (knock on wood). Immediately after graduation in December, Joel and I will be heading on a Caribbean cruise leaving from Houston and going to Honduras, Belize, and Mexico. We never went on a honeymoon, so this is our first big trip together where we will actually do stuff besides sit in his parents' condo and eat Five Guys. Words cannot express how excited I am for this. No, the only thing that can express my excitement is exactly three .gifs:





So now you know how excited I am. Only eight months and eight classes away... *Sob*

PS - Shoutout to anyone reading this who got here through The Loudmouth Lifestyle's post about "7 Bloggers That Get Real." Welcome! Thank you for reading! I hope you don't hate it! And isn't Steph such a peach? :)